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My "luv"/hate relationship with the cell phone

Let me set this up for you. I am a 23-year-old who is pretty up to date with technology. I have had a cell phone since I was a junior in high school, and I have never paid for a land line. My cell is with me at all times. I am always "connected," and I feel lost without being able to flip the phone open any where to call my family and friends.

The emphasis in that last sentence is on the word 'call.' That's right, I don't text. It's not like I can't, it's just that I choose not to. I will send the occassional reply out of obligation, but I truly despise it.

Excuse me while I get on my soapbox, but I feel like texting is ruining the way we communicate. I am all for utilizing technology, but I have to draw the line somewhere. Obviously I am a fan of written communication. But "i luv u, pls visit me asap. lol. u r my bff" just doesn't do much for me.

It just feels so ... impersonal. I mean, when I want to check in on my college friend in Indianapolis, I give her a call and we talk for at least 30 minutes (sometimes an hour, oops!). We gab about work, relationships and life in general. I could never get the same kind of scoop from text messages back and forth all day. Yes, I give her the occassional facebook comment now and then (I'll give a post on facebook another day) but nothing catches us up more than a real conversation.

Aside from feeling impersonal, texting takes such. a. long. time.

I kid you not, this was a typical night in college with my friends.

Friend A would text friend B saying we all should hang out. Then it goes like this :

Friend B - "sure where do u want 2 go?"

Friend A - "we dont care. do u have any ideas?"

Friend B - "whatever u want"

Friend A - "how about bowling?"

Friend B - "where at?"

Friend A - "varsity lanes"

Friend B - "wheres that?"

Friend A - "down by wal mart"

Friend B - "ok, what time?"

Friend A - "how about 8?"

Friend B - "sounds good"

This my friends, is the shortened version of the conversation. It usually went on to include driving arrangements, other friends who wanted to come, how much it costs, and a few quips about my bad bowling skills. It seems pretty short, but with all the time it takes for the phones to send/receive the messages and for each person to read/respond, this conversation over text seriously takes at least 20 minutes. Who has time for that?

Now, if Friend A were to have called Friend B, the whole thing could have been figured out in five minutes flat. And we all could have bowled another game.

Oh, and don't get me started on the use of bad grammar, spelling and punctuation. You can argue all you want, but it really does make bad habits. I seriously had to go back through the above conversation to purposely make errors and talk in text lingo. And many a time while proofing a classmate's paper in class (mind you, a journalism class), I came across the use of "u" for "you" or "r u" for "are you." English teachers must be losing their minds.

Seriously, the solution is calling. Dial that number and talk. And if I don't answer, leave a voicemail. I like to hear voices (other than the ones in my head). Call me old fashioned, call me a spoil sport, but hey, just call me.

Am I the only one who despises texting? Is there something great about it I am missing? Leave me a comment below.


  1. I hate text messaging, I agree with you about picking up the phone and calling, but being on a cell phone all the time isn't good for you either, I know a lady that died from brain tumors and she had worked for a cell phone company for years and that is all that she had and that is what they said it was caused from, so are cell phones good to talk on or text on?

  2. GOOD JOB! Right on! Way to Go! Anyway, interesting reading and I agree completely! btw, u r doing a gr8 job! LOL!


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